tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post3240267304377265809..comments2023-04-07T10:43:14.287-04:00Comments on Simeon's Trail: Not Alone (And Not a Failure)Tarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12808674825863044909noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-64034210568626569922013-09-06T10:18:55.035-04:002013-09-06T10:18:55.035-04:00Tara, I so appreciate you writing this post and be...Tara, I so appreciate you writing this post and being so open and honest. Although I never adopted I have over the years cared for my two Nephews who were in and out of Foster care their entire lives. My oldest Nephew has lived with us for five years now. The thing is in the beginning I felt a lot of guilt because the boys were not progressing or behaving the way I expected them to. I had thought the same as you, that if they were finally in a home where they were loved and felt secure, and their needs were met that they would thrive. I felt overwhelming guilt every time I was sad or stressed out at how hard it all was. My oldest Nephew also smeared poop on walls...That was extremely difficult for me to deal with. I finally got to the point where I realized I am not super woman and I didn't have to be. I realized the boys were damaged by their past and that I couldn't take it all away...I couldn't "cure" them of it. But I could love them. No matter what we were going through I could love them.<br />Thank you again for posting this one, it always helps to know you are not alone out there in your feelings.JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16040699928110444013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-64685729954779424152013-09-05T21:12:17.578-04:002013-09-05T21:12:17.578-04:00You know Dariya has been home just over 2 years an...You know Dariya has been home just over 2 years and I was having this very conversation with myself today. There are so many hurdles and victories she has won but so many yet to accomplish. Adoption is hard even when things go as smoothly as ours went. You are not alone.Rochellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11866781944242761406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-62347615277238940932013-09-05T08:13:25.611-04:002013-09-05T08:13:25.611-04:00Hi Tara! I'm not going to even insult you by p...Hi Tara! I'm not going to even insult you by pretending like I can relate. I have three kids who I birthed (Ok, the without medication thing for two of them). I will say that your post reminded me of the Apostle Paul who struggled with his weakness (that thorn in the side he never describes in detail). What he did say that I continually turn to is how he came to a place where he welcomed his own weakness, because "when I am weak, then you are strong." I see God bringing His love and grace so vividly to you when you're surrounded by your poop mess, which really just represents the pride and ego all parents feel as they struggle with how their children's lives reflect their own capacity and value. I know you don't really need me to tell you that God is with you and your family and created Bo and knew he would find his way into your family's tapestry. It's hard to release and trust and bear the brunt of the disconnect between the life God has lead you to leave and the life the world seems to be defining as normal. You guys are in my prayers and I'm thankful God has blessed you with such an open spirit that you can so boldly share that life (warts and all). Thanks and keep going! PS -- wholeheartedly agree that drawing a line in the poop is probably a good thing in the long run. :)Elizabeth Oyernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-23786549159096661842013-09-05T07:42:38.432-04:002013-09-05T07:42:38.432-04:00If you are on Facebook - PLEASE COME JOIN THE LIVI...If you are on Facebook - PLEASE COME JOIN THE LIVING ROOM GROUP. It is for adopting RR families who now have their babes home and who want to NOT feel so alone. My FB is julia arnold nalle - BiblioPlanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03280711675527287905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-89499937077889531732013-09-05T06:24:54.404-04:002013-09-05T06:24:54.404-04:00Oh, indeed, Tana! So grateful for you!Oh, indeed, Tana! So grateful for you!Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808674825863044909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-46769981514406008622013-09-05T06:24:05.613-04:002013-09-05T06:24:05.613-04:00Thank you, Christie! I don't know where this n...Thank you, Christie! I don't know where this need to"hurry up & fix him" comes from, but I'm so glad to realize, finally, that I CAN'T! And get on with loving. ;)Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808674825863044909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-32385331782763037112013-09-04T23:19:33.099-04:002013-09-04T23:19:33.099-04:00You're not alone, Tara. There are many of us ...You're not alone, Tara. There are many of us in the tranches with you. We may not have all the answers, but there is strength (and solace) in numbers. Tanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13433282829580147755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219575533193649231.post-81025592901851544362013-09-04T23:03:47.510-04:002013-09-04T23:03:47.510-04:00Tara, I know you saw my FB post today about Jadon&...Tara, I know you saw my FB post today about Jadon's mini-breakthroughs that I recognized today. He's been home 23 months and that is where we are now. <br /><br />My reality is this. I brought home my 3 year old son, the size of a 9 month child, and developmentally that of a newborn baby 23 months ago. <br /><br />He is now nearing 5 years old, he's the size of a 2 year old and is developmentally that of a 9 month old. <br /><br />Id est quod est. It is what it is. I am not a magic cure all. I cannot remove the damage done to his brain through utter neglect. What I can do is walk confident in the one thing he needs MORE THAN ANYTHING in this world, and that my dear, is MY LOVE. <br /><br />Will it cure it all? Nope. BUT it will push him along in life, tiny step by tiny step and ever so often he amazes me. It's all good. That is my world and I wouldn't want it any other way for Jadon. <br /><br />I LOVE YOU TARA. one_plustwinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02548940911551479247noreply@blogger.com